This Whole Together Family Life

Hi, You!

I’m Erika Shirk. I’m a writer, homeschooling mom of three, wife, runner, reader of all the books, and self-proclaimed professional improver of all the home routines.

My most repeated phrase is probably: “Go outside if you want to be wild.” Sometimes I even say it to my husband (who, less wildly, works from home). As the least wild of the five people in my house and an introverted HSP, I’ve had to learn to make space for their wildness (because I hold I lot of sway, but this house isn’t only mine) and to make quieter space to recharge in spite of it all

My goal is for everyone in my family to feel whole and free to be themselves. For us I’ve found that means making time to pursue meaningful goals and dreams, prioritize spiritual, emotional and physical health, connect as a whole family, and be seen as individuals even in our families.

It’s a constantly changing work-in-progress as we adjust for individual personalities, life seasons and overall balance.


I believe with my whole heart that God placed us together as specific people with specific people for our creative and spiritual good. It’s a daunting joy to figure it out on the daily, but one that is worth our time and courage.

As part of our work-in-progress, I write. I put words in a row to make sense and find freedom for my kiddos, my husband, and me in our specificity and in our togetherness. Writing gives me eyes for the grace of it all, for more options than I thought, for hope in imperfection, and for God’s vision in the midst of everything unplanned. Each word after another paves the way for more wholeness in our family.

 I hope it helps you in your family, too. 

Sharing good books because I’m obsessed and a little nerdy.

Essays and helpful tips for whole together families.

Practicing kind self-talk and saying the words I need to hear.

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Take a stand – it’s ok to upset people {The Kind Side}

Sometimes in our lives we feel like we can’t do things because we might upset someone. We know the boundaries, the rules, the expectations, and the acceptable compromises in our social circles. But sometimes something happens and our thinking changes. We’re in the same groups, but the logic doesn’t work anymore. The shortcomings, pitfalls, and … Continue reading Take a stand – it’s ok to upset people {The Kind Side}


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