To my younger self.


Linking up with Emily at Chatting at the Sky with a letter to myself in honor of her new book for girls called, Graceful. You can read more letters and learn more about the book here!

Dear Me in 2006,

Don’t you wish these things actually worked? I’ve been wondering if I’m ever going to sleep through the night again. And I know you’ve always wanted to know who you’re going to marry.
Well, I’m not going to tell you because that’s about all I know that you don’t know and I have to know more than you somehow!
I’m only going to say he’s wonderful and all that you ever dreamed of and more, but so different.You know that essay you wrote about your ideal husband? That’s him. Only he doesn’t speak Spanish. So you better get on that.

Okok. I’ll give you a hint. You notice him because he knows the difference between two often confused words. A man after your own heart. ;)

You’re just getting to that point where people are asking you what you’re going to do with the rest of your life. It’s a big question. Just tell them you don’t have to figure it all out now, but you’re going to school, you’re going to graduate, and that’s all you’ve.
It’s fine. You don’t have to figure it all out. Everything falls into place.
You’re going to learn a lot and grow a lot. Don’t worry about it. You’re doing fine.
Here are some pointers for you (since we both know lists are just the best thing in the world):

  1. Don’t waste your brainspace or your time thinking about who you’re going to marry. You’ll meet your one and only right when you’ve stopped looking. Ignore the chatty facebook guy.
  2. Be nice to the sister you’re going to get this year. Give her grace. Give her space. Don’t be the bossy older sister. Don’t call her names. She’s been through a lot. Try to understand. You’ll be friends soon. Tell her you love her and mean it. Give her hugs, she needs it. Talk to her about important things and let her teach you. I know she’s 4 and a half years younger than you, but that’s not that much really. She’s a gem.
  3. Don’t be afraid to try new things just because you might not do them well. have fun!
  4. It doesn’t matter what “they” think. You know who ‘they’ are.
  5. Take that lifeguarding class. It will be one of the best decisions you ever made.
  6. Pick up running sooner!
  7. Write out your thoughts, your prayers and your feelings. You claim you hate writing…give it another chance.
  8. Don’t accept everything you hear. Think for yourself. Challenge accepted opinions.
  9. Read worthwhile books.
  10. God is awesome. He has your life planned out just right. Trust him. Follow him. And when you hear other christians talking about something you’ve never thought before, don’t limit what God can do based on your own presuppositions. He’s awesome.

I hope that helps.

Remember that you won’t ever have your life ‘figured out’ and there will always be challenges, but when they come you’ll need a strong foundation on God to get through them.

Be strong in the Lord, don’t worry about your life, don’t worry about tomorrow, be joyful always, and whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all of your might (Eph 6:10, Matt 6:25, Matt 6:34, 1 Thess 5:16, Eccl 9:10).

You’ve got it good. Don’t forget that. Look for ways to share.

Good luck!

– Erika
PS—you’re taking driver’s ed this fall. Just so you know: when you make a turn, the steering wheel does not return to straight on it’s own when you loose your stranglehold! You have to turn it. You’ll add a couple years to our life if you don’t almost hit that fence.


My sister and I before venturing out for the midnight showing of Pirates of the Caribbean 2 in 2006.

2 thoughts on “To my younger self.

  1. Oh, interesting idea! Honestly though, I’m not sure I remember much about being specifically 16… o.O (omgoodness, that must mean I’m old, eh? :D) Your ps cracks me up, lol. :D


    1. :) it was hard to think of things about that age specifically…but the general time was easy enough. If you’re old that means I’ll be old in 2 years and my husband is ancient. You’re not allowed to be old! Lol :)
      And yes. That fence. I had the mistaken presupposition that driving was just like Need for Speed. :)


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