Day 5: facebook, the quiet life, and whatever is lovely.


(This is a part of 31 days to Focus and Refresh a blog series my mom, sister and I are hosting as we spend 31 minutes a day improving our hearts, homes, and habits in the month of October.We would love your company!)

Today the pattern of my day could be displayed in a collage of facebook status updates.

For some reason that is how day five with no facebook/pinterest/goodreads/delicious/blogs readers is going. I am deprived… or maybe just depraved…

But my mind is going into that mode.

You know the one. Or maybe you don’t. I didn’t til now.

It’s the one where you notice that the facebook logo is on granola bar wrappers.

Mhmm. That one. Yes. Seriously.

Yup. I had no idea either.

The longest I’ve been without facebook since I got it 4 years ago is probably about 3 days.


Facebook junkie.

So you can see why today, after a business week of holding in my facebook worthy news, my mind is taking over and telling me what it would like the world to know.

As I was listening to myself talk in facebook one-liners over the course of the day, I was struck by what was coming out of my head that I thought the world needed to know.

It made me really think about how I need to reevaluate what is coming out of my fingers and being sent into worldwide oblivion for anyone and everyone.

Do I really need to tell the story about what happened at the store/park/house today that made me huff and puff?
Probably not. Complainer.

Should I be advertising the fact that I ate a handful of spinach because it tasted good and not even mentioning the fact I just demolished half a bowl of cookie dough the day before?

Yeah….uhh. Can we say selective representation of self?? Or maybe just hypocrite?

Is it necessary to post things about being so happy in my married/mother life when I have friends who just want to be in the same place but aren’t yet?

I know it doesn’t necessarily sound like a bad thing, but rubbing my ‘good life’ in their unsuspecting faces might make their life a little harder. And that’s not necessary.

Now…what’s left? What can I post on facebook? I’m not sure yet. I know there are people who love to see the hundreds of pictures of my kiddo or to hear about how happy my husband makes me, but it is hard to tell if my 540 friends on facebook all fall into that category.

Are my friends being blessed by what I post or am I causing them to long for a different life? Am I encouraging an attitude of gratefulness and optimism or am I continually pointing fingers and filling the air with my unhappiness?

Should my reaction to every situation be a facebook status update or is there a better way? A quick prayer of thanks or plea for help, maybe? A text to someone who would be interested without causing them grief at your good fortune?

How to be a blessing in this world of cynicism and self-centeredness?

How should we use facebook?

Maybe this would be a good guide:

Philippians 4:8

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

And maybe the definition of leading a “quiet life” would be resisting the urge to post everything on facebook and instead just tending well to the work at hand and letting it speak for itself and then avoid being dependent on the praise of others for our feeling of value?

1 Thessalonians 4:11-12
“Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands, just as we told you, so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody.”

Maybe, just maybe.

It is worth considering more.

Today I enjoyed reading Ann Voskamp‘s post today in her 31 Days of Crazy Joy: Starting Now? The End to Cynicism.

A glimpse of today’s 31 minutes of useful endeavor (incomplete til more minutes can be alloted):



What have you enjoyed today? What are your thoughts on the facebook issue? What do you post or not post?


2 thoughts on “Day 5: facebook, the quiet life, and whatever is lovely.

  1. Great things to think about. Some people on my facebook feed do a great job of encouraging others through facebook and some just complain. What a great thought that we could be of some use to God in everything. Even facebook.


    1. It’s a little scary how we choose to compartmentalize our values as Christians and just end up conforming with the world. Thank you for reading!


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