An important part of how God is molding this momma is through my reading. When I realized I needed to be more intentionally parenting Ranger I saw it as another project or assignment and started reading all the parenting books I could. I borrowed from the library, perused goodreads for recommendations, pulled random book off my mom’s bookshelves and followed other’s recommendations. Reading is big big part of how I learn and I decided to take on parenting like I would a class or a job.
Treat it seriously.
Don’t let it just happen.
Here are some of my favorite parenting books so far:
Parenting From the Inside Out by Daniel Siegel and Mary Hartzell
I’ve already written quite a bit about this book. I highly recommend it! It basically points out how your mental and emotional well-being and health effect how you parent your child. It also had an in-depth science based section at the end of each chapter that you can either skim, skip or read based on your interest in each topic. So far this book has come up in days 9, 7, and 6. My mom has also written a few posts about her experience with the content: here and here,
Families Where Grace Is in Place: Building a Home Free of Manipulation, Legalism, and Shame by Jeff VanVonderen
This book was one of my favorites because how he dealt with equality in the marriage relationship, but I also really appreciated his insights on parenting with grace. Grace has always been something I would thank God for when I prayed and it has been an important highlight of my parenting study so far. It is important to me that I be able yo accept God’s grace and also offer grace to those I come in contact with throughout my life.
The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind Daniel Siegel
Another book by Siegel and an awesome resource for dealing with discipline and behavior in a psychologically healthy way. He gives some awesome information about helping your child to manage himself well by connecting his logical mind to his emotional mind and moving forward. In a more healthy pattern of living. I plan to read this one again when Ranger is a little older.
Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus by Elyse Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson
Another grace book. I really liked that this was a reflection between a mother and her adult daughter about how they parented and are parenting. They share mistakes and give grace to each other, to us as mothers, and in heavy helpings to their children.
Grace-Based Parenting by Tim Kimmel
I read a couple other books by Tim Kimmel before reading this one. I really liked this one as well. I disagree with him in a couple points but overall the information, reflections and advice shared were worth reading and thinking about.
Also excellent and kind of along the same grace giving lines:
The Blessing by Gary Smalley
I read this a while ago and I don’t remember as much as I’d like to tell you so I’ll share the description from Amazon:
We all have a powerful need to know that someone in this world loves us and accepts us unconditionally. We especially crave our parents’ blessing, and without it, we may become angry and driven, or detached and empty. We may also feel this hurtful lack between brothers and sisters, husbands and wives, or even within our religious congregation.
Now family counselors Gary Smalley and John Trent, Ph.D., show us how we can transform our lives – even when it is no longer possible to receive our parents’ blessing. They reveal the five key elements of the blessing, describe the most common home situations where a blessing has been denied (one of them may be ours), and offer practical, effective methods to heal broken hearts and families. Most important, they explain how we can be a blessing, and pass on that life-changing gift to our love ones.
I’m also currently reading
Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World by Jill Rigby
What are you reading?
How do you make sure you keep learning in and about your role as a parent?
What is your favorite parenting book?
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