Whole Together Family {31 Days 2018}


“Oh, I could never do that.”

That’s a classic response when people hear we’re homeschooling/unschooling.

If that’s you, trust me, if you wanted to do it, you could. It’d be fine. You would find what is right for you and your family.

(Maybe you actually can’t and that’s completely fine. God has that figured out for you, too. I’m just addressing the usual sentiment behind the above statement.)

But just know I completely understand any reason why you don’t.

Every now and then I wish I could just drop them off somewhere and have someone else be in charge of them and their education and I could go be my own person because I’m getting a little wild-eyed, too. But it’s fine. We’re fine. It’s all fine.

But that is my hangup with homeschooling. My kids are always around, often in need of something, and the nagging cultural “should’s” of motherhood, can make it hard to feel like my own person. Sometimes I just need a break! And breaks are amazing.

But: that desire to be whole and myself is where I need to pause to make this unschooling journey work. Just because I have kids at home with me, doesn’t mean I stop being my own person. I’m still me. I’m still free. I just have a bunch of littles who like to tag along, and while that does get a little complicated, it’s doable.

And necessary. Because how am I going to teach them how lovely and created they are as themselves if I am obsessed with trying cram myself into a box that doesn’t fit, supposedly for their sake?

Seeing their mama live free and whole is good for them.

And I passionate about learning that and helping them to live and free as themselves as well.

This month I am going to be exploring the idea of the Whole Together Family.


  • I believe we can be completely ourselves, together.
  • God doesn’t want us to show up as half of ourselves in our own lives.
  • Being ourselves in our own lives is not at odds with being there for our people in exactly the ways they need or we choose.
  • It’s not about directing our lives on the expected paths. It’s about looking at the paths we are on congruently and leaping into the exploration that is life, together.
  • Our unschooling, my pursuits, and my husband’s pursuits can all coexist into a beautiful thing that blesses our kids and our family.
  • We each get to be who God created us to be.

  1. This is Day 1 of my 31 days series!
  2. Adjusting Focus
  3. Us-Schooling
  4. When we are imperfectly whole
  5. True About You
  6. 10 Delightful Picture Books
  7. Go from here.
  8. What We’re Into!
  9. Magic Key to Creativity
  10. What happens when you have a book-centered mama.
  11. A Balance of Needs
  12. Room for our feelings
  13. Mom life vs your life?
  14. Reading Widely (QuickLit Oct)
  15. Yes, I …
  16. Seasons of
  17. Each individual who
  18. Choosing
  19. Finding Holy in the Suburbs by Ashley Hales {Review}
  20. Hope and a palmful of faith
  21. Moment {FMF}
  22. A little independence
  23. You can always change your mind.
  24. a dozen joys
  25. Day 25-31 will be linked up here as they are written.

What do you think about this topic? I’d love to hear from you about it here, or on Instagram, or sign up for my email list, and just hit reply to me there!

I am excited to be linking up with #write31days, especially since this is the last official year.

But I might do it again on my own sometime.

For now, look forward to this series in October and check out the linkup to see what everyone else is writing about.

I also have my previous years linked in the sidebar if you’re interested.


27 thoughts on “Whole Together Family {31 Days 2018}

  1. I’m interested to follow along with your thoughts here. Its a topic that has niggled in my brain off and on for a while now. :)


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