A few years ago, I cohosted a weekly series and linkup called Wholemama. We wrote once a week on a one word prompt and we wrote about how even as we have all these separate roles, each one informs and builds the other. We wrote about how our creative, spiritual, and mothering roles all interwound and coexisted and how we were better for it.
It was life-giving and fulfilling. It was also necessary for that time in my life with my three tiny people. It would have been easy to forget myself and lose touch with my own needs and humanity in the midst of theirs. It was exactly right. It helped to think about how to merge the pieces of my interests into the whole of who I am.
But after a while it seemed time to move on, so Wholemama came to a graceful close.
But it is still here for me.
It’s a starting point in this idea of the whole together family.
It is important to realize the specific way you were created to show up in the world and to make time for those pursuits that bring you life, but I want all my people to be whole, not just me.
Plus, I was starting to feel like my life and the life my husband and I want to give our kids were a little at odds. You know the story: the stay-at-home mom gets a life after the youngest kid graduates or, if she’s lucky, when the youngest kid starts school.
But at the moment, my kids won’t be going away to school during the day. They’ll be right here with me. And I’m not waiting 15 more years to feel ok with who I am and what I’m doing. Of course, no one is saying I have to, it’s just that feeling that bothers me and is worth addressing.
So I’m writing my own version of the story a little more on purpose. Because these kids are wonders, and my husband is pretty amazing too. And really this path we are on is not at odds with who I am or want to be. It turns out they are pretty well aligned. I just have to adjust my focus to see the way it all naturally falls together.
This month I am joining the #write31days community to explore the idea of the Whole Together Family because I believe we get be who God created us to be – together. Find the whole list posts here or click on the image.
What has been your experience? Have you been able to find room to be yourself in motherhood or has it been a struggle?
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