Magic, Quarters, and Good Enough {What I’ve learned – Winter 2018}

1. Library favoritism is perfectly acceptable. The old library is the best library. We’ve tried two new to us library locations this month and they’ve been charming for different reasons, but I still have a favorite. The kids may not agree, but I drive the car.

2. Trying to combine habits is hard. At separate times I’ve successfully established a writing routine, reading goals, good parenting habits, and consistent running, however trying to combine them is beyond me. I’m learning to embrace the discipline of ‘good enough’ and carry on even when I don’t meet my own expectations.

3. Paying my kids a quarter each a day to do the dishes in whatever manner they can is completely worth it! And as it turns out they are completely capable. Who knew? This makes me so happy. :)

4. Sometimes there is enough even when you don’t think so. Acting on a sense of enough often helps you realize how much enough you already have. If that’s not vague enough for you, let me know.

5. If you need something, you have to ask. There is no way around it. A few hours of weekly writing time in the library has been my really helpful ask recently:

6. Just because someone chooses to do something doesn’t mean they judging me for not doing something. I don’t have to assume their choices as unspoken judgements on my own. AKA: Note to self: You can’t read minds. Chill.

7. I’m not a morning runner and there’s no reason I have to force it.

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This morning I realized I love getting up early, but I am not an early morning runner. If I plan to run, I hit snooze again and again. Whereas if I picture myself in my chair with a hot cup of coffee, my books, a soft light, and plans to do something that feels fulfilling, I can get up at least an hour before the munchkins. Peace, quiet, purposeful thoughtfulness. Just how a morning should be. I think this expectation came from some productivity book or another about ordering your mornings for success. Useful, but different systems work for different people. My mornings will be better and I’ll actually be motivated to get up if i just follow my own energy levels and need to reduce input instead of forcing my life to fit someone else’s successful habits. I will happily run later. Just not right after I wake up. Have you had any similar revelations recently? What expectations or assumptions are holding you back? —- #hopewriterlife @hopewriters #writinglife #runnermama #writermama #morningroutine #itssimplytuesday #productivehabits #intentionalliving #coffeecoffeecoffee

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8. I might have more curl in my hair than I thought. I’m experimenting with a bare bones version of the Curly Girl Method and have had interesting success. Even if I only gain a little more hair health and a little volume, I think it’s worth it and I’m having fun.

9. Reading exclusively African American authors this month has been remarkable. It has changed how I think and feel in a variety of ways I didn’t expect. I’ll post what books I read and maybe a little personal reflection on the experience sometime next week.

10. Seeking out a little magic is worth the effort and easier than I thought:

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Happy heart day! And no, this is not breakfast. I do not have this kind of patience for breakfast. But this is just to say: your valentines does not have to be fancy or be very much celebrated at all. Do what works for you and your family right now. The kids love arbitrary holidays, but they definitely don’t have to be an all out a party in the morning. An extra piece of candy, an extra “I love you”, and nothing fancy. Thankful for my little people who love to celebrate anything at all. ——— These hearts were actually made possible by the non-stick pan my mom gave me for christmas. It is magic. Otherwise this would not have happened. 😂 — #momlife #simplifymotherhood #happyheartday #hopewriterlife #unschoolinglife #februaryfreewrite

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I’m linking up with Emily P. Freeman who is so thoughtful to invite us to reflect each season. Go visit her to see everyone else’s lists!

Also: You should know she’s publishing another book this spring and I think you might love it :) I’ll be talking about this more of course, but check it out here: The Next Right Thing: A Simple, Soulful Practice for Making Life Decisions


What’s something entertaining or profound you have learned this season? I’d love to hear!


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2 thoughts on “Magic, Quarters, and Good Enough {What I’ve learned – Winter 2018}

  1. Your curls are so cute! :) I’ve recently started paying my kids a quarter to do little jobs as well, and it has been such a win-win for everyone. Totally worth it!

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