Listening involves being quiet.
But beyond that it involves stilling our own inner dialogue where we prepare what we want to say next or decide what we think about what we’re hearing.
Listening is sitting in the space of someone else’s words.
Not just hearing.
Not just taking in the auditory signals.
It’s observing with our ears the inner dialogue and nuances of another person’s life.
It’s holding space for an experience that is not your own and letting it share space with your own experience.
It might not leave you unchanged.
Listening well is something I have yet to learn.
I am always considering my own perspective too highly and protecting my own opinions without really thinking about it.
I might argue that I heard you, but am I really listening?
Have I stilled the hastiness of my own soul enough to meet your soul with mine?
Probably my inner turmoil is reaching peak boil waiting to be affirmed or challenged by someone else’s.
Probably I don’t even want to listen because I’m busy with my own thing.
But what would it mean to consciously pause all that and learn to take a slower way.
I can get a little idealistic here.
I’m not ever going to manage it all the time.
Sometimes I can practice listening instead of simply hearing and responding.
Linking up for Five Minute Friday again.