It’s ok to prioritize creative work. It’s ok to tell your kids, “I’m working right now.” It’s ok to assign value even when there’s no job title or pay schedule. It’s ok to quell and mitigate the interruptions with clear communication and careful planning. It’s ok if you are the only one who understands your… Read more
Don’t quit because you feel ridiculous. Everything you do will feel a little ridiculous at some point; it doesn’t mean you should quit or even second-guess. Carry on. Stretch your comfort zone. Try a little more than you think you can manage. Step out of ruts and boredom into the realm of the ridiculous. Chances… Read more
Remember God by Annie F. Downs “And you know I wrestle. You know I wish things were easier and wish our stories were more streamlined and tied with a tighter bow at the end. I struggle so much when my expectations of God don’t meet the reality of my current experience with life.” Annie F.… Read more
Hi, You! I’m Erika.
My home is wild. I’m sure yours is, too. In the chaos, it’s hard to make sure everyone in the family feels whole and free to be themselves. We’re all on an independent path even as we’re trying to live congruently in a family. Everyone needs, wants, and is passionate about something different. On top of that, the house needs to be somewhat livable, certain levels of learning and growth are expected, and social, cultural and spiritual values are foisted haphazardly and silently.
Raising little people and being a healthy adult in the face of all those conflicting needs and expectations is a wild ride that doesn’t really have rule book.
In this process of making room for all my people and myself to be whole and free, I’m writing. It’s one of the ways I become more whole and free. Musing, muttering, and putting words in a row until I make a little more sense and find a little more freedom for my kiddos, my husband, and me. Writing reminds me to look for the grace, look for the third option, and to keep my eyes open to what God might be doing in the midst of it all, too.
I hope my musings and thoughts are helpful to you too. Here are some of the things I’m learning and sharing about lately:
- Making space for kids and parents to be whole and themselves – as a group and individually.
- Saying yes to creativity and optional pursuits while learning to deal with an aggressive inner critic.
- Helping kids to learn and grow through an unschooling-type approach to learning.
- Always finding really good books to read – because I can’t help it, I’m obsessed. And a little nerdy.