I like to think I’m good at hospitality. I don’t invite people in too much. But I sometimes do. Good enough, yes? But then, I think the people I choose to invite tend to be easier to deal with then the people I don’t or didn’t quite choose. I’m wondering a bit: how would it… Read more
July was a weird month of reading. I listened to a couple audiobooks while ferrying the kids back and forth to VBS. Three hours of VBS is not really long enough when it takes 25 minutes to get to church. The audiobooks helped it to be more enjoyable instead of feeling like wasting alone minutes… Read more
It’s not your job to appease your inner critic. You can’t placate a voice that’s never pleased. I find myself trying to live such to avoid the little critical feeling in my head. The way to avoid rethinking all the words you said over lunch with family? Don’t say any words at all. The way… Read more
Hi, You! I’m Erika.
My home is wild. I’m sure yours is, too. In the chaos, it’s hard to make sure everyone in the family feels whole and free to be themselves. We’re all on an independent path even as we’re trying to live congruently in a family. Everyone needs, wants, and is passionate about something different. On top of that, the house needs to be somewhat livable, certain levels of learning and growth are expected, and social, cultural and spiritual values are foisted haphazardly and silently.
Raising little people and being a healthy adult in the face of all those conflicting needs and expectations is a wild ride that doesn’t really have rule book.
In this process of making room for all my people and myself to be whole and free, I’m writing. It’s one of the ways I become more whole and free. Musing, muttering, and putting words in a row until I make a little more sense and find a little more freedom for my kiddos, my husband, and me. Writing reminds me to look for the grace, look for the third option, and to keep my eyes open to what God might be doing in the midst of it all, too.
I hope my musings and thoughts are helpful to you too. Here are some of the things I’m learning and sharing about lately:
- Making space for kids and parents to be whole and themselves – as a group and individually.
- Saying yes to creativity and optional pursuits while learning to deal with an aggressive inner critic.
- Helping kids to learn and grow through an unschooling-type approach to learning.
- Always finding really good books to read – because I can’t help it, I’m obsessed. And a little nerdy.