How to be Whole?

Sometimes I get stuck because I feel like I should have it all figured out by now. I shouldn't be struggling to parent, relate well, write, or focus enough to spend my energy on things that matter to me. I think I should know it all by now. It's been a decade, eight years, seven … Continue reading How to be Whole?

When we are imperfectly whole {Whole Together Family 4/31}

I've spent most of my life improving things. I am a One on the enneagram, even though often I wish I was an Eight or aspire to transform into a Five. I am a solid One. I improve, perfect, and rapidly assess situations and figure out what is wrong. I am not a technical perfectionist about as … Continue reading When we are imperfectly whole {Whole Together Family 4/31}

choose a simple start {the kind side}

For when perfection, or just wanting to get it right the first try, is stopping you from trying something: It doesn't have to be perfect. Sometimes it is too easy to skip doing something all together or putting something off indefinitely because you're worried it's not going to be good enough. But just a reminder: … Continue reading choose a simple start {the kind side}

When calm means leaving things unfinished :: soul calm {31/31}

Sometimes I try too hard to do the things I've set out to do. And sometimes that drives me crazy and makes me miss the things in life I tend to skip putting on my to-do list. Or would rather not be there altogether. This last week has been filled to the brim somehow. With … Continue reading When calm means leaving things unfinished :: soul calm {31/31}

The Battle of Shame and Perfectionism :: soul calm {12/31}

For me part of finding calm is letting go of the perfectionism that invades my soul, leaking me dry one doubt, insecurity, or mistake at a time. I can worry all day about how I might be messing up my kids because perfect parenting doesn't exist. I could get slightly angsty about missing a day of … Continue reading The Battle of Shame and Perfectionism :: soul calm {12/31}

Prayer: My Broken, His Whole {#wholemama} 

Prayer might be the one thing I want to write about less than I wanted to write about my mess last week, for some reason.  I don't live up to my own expectations. I would love to be able to sit down and read the bible, and then journal and then pray.  All in one … Continue reading Prayer: My Broken, His Whole {#wholemama} 

Messy Imperfections {#wholemama}

   It's hard to be honest about messes.  This mess, this floor mess. Was easy.  Any mess my children make is easy, the state of my laundry pile (huge!) is easy to share.  I've somehow grown accustomed to sharing aspects of my home as token markers of imperfection. "Look at me, my life is messy … Continue reading Messy Imperfections {#wholemama}

Easy Food {embracing imperfection}

Who's ready for the monthly dose of imperfect honesty? Fish sticks and tater tots for lunch. Mac and cheese with hotdogs for dinner. Yup. It makes it sound like I can't cook. But that is ok. I'm embracing imperfection. It's ok to not "do it all". It's ok to go for easy instead of elaborate … Continue reading Easy Food {embracing imperfection}